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How Social Media Destroys Your Relationship

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Social media has made it easier for people to know more about other peoples lives than ever before. Pictures of happy couples, usually tagged #couplegoals, have flooded social media blinding many young couples to the reality that people will only show what they want you to see. You only see the good times. No one shares their arguments, their bad moments or the numerous number of times they irritate each other. Couples only show the side that will bring them more likes and comments to gain social media popularity.

Social media can have a negative impact on relationships if misused. Excessive time spent, jealousy-inducing posts, privacy invasion, or online infidelity can strain trust and communication, potentially leading to relationship breakdowns.

The carefully curated images on social media can take a toll on your love life. Most times people compare their relationship to these social media relationships which look good on the outside and this has led to not only breakups but emotional abuse. You will end up putting pressure on your partner expecting them to be someone they are not, leaving you asking questions like “Why them, why not us? Why aren’t we doing this and that? Why don’t you do this like this person?”

It is important that you understand that no relationship is a bed of roses and comes with its ups and downs. Most importantly you have do what works for your relationship rather than comparing it to what you see on social media.

Here are some useful tips for you to apply in your relationship instead of comparing.

Find comfort within

Seeking validation or using others relationship to define yours is a sign that you do not have confidence in your current status. You might notice that everyone but you is getting worked up or others seem happier in their relationships than you. Don’t allow this to make you start questioning the state and progress of your relationship.

In order for you to feel more confident, fight the urge to let other couples benchmarks be a yardstick for measuring your relationship. Be happy in yours and put in efforts to make it work.

Avoid playing the blame game

Saying things like “Why aren’t we like that other couple?” or “If I was with him or her then things would be different,” only destroys the bond between you and your partner. It also breaks the trust since you blame your relationship challenges on your partner without taking responsibility.

Instead of putting the blame on your partner, focus on what you like about your connection. Remind yourselves of what made you fall in love. Go out of your way to do things for each other.

Get real with your friends

Swap relationship stories with your friends. Hearing them open up about their relationships and the struggles they face will kill any assumption you might have.

You and your friends will also be able to advise each other on how to handle the challenges you face. Sharing like this will give you a sense of relief as you realise that you are not alone. Ensure you do this with trusted friends who have your best interests at heart.

Turn jealousy into action

Your first reaction when you see those romantic getaways shared on social media might be envious however, you can turn this into positive action. Instead of letting that jealousy eat you up, organise a fun activity that you and your partner would enjoy taking part in.

Use these instances as reminders to get out and get active instead of spending countless hours online.

Take a break from social media

If you try everything else and it doesn’t work, take a break from social media for a few days or a couple of weeks. Spend this time reminding yourself of what really matters in life. Focus on being the best version of yourself and making things better in your life. And when you do go back online, unfollow anybody who doesn’t add value to your life.

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‘She will destroy your legacy’ – 2Face brother shares concerns about singer’s relationship

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Charles Idibia, also known as Charlybrave, brother to legendary Nigerian musician, 2Face, has shared his feelings in a heartfelt open letter to the singer.

In a lengthy instagram post, Charles praised 2Face for his calm and passionate nature, likening him to a “modern day Jesus” who silently endures criticism and blame to shield those responsible for his struggles.

Charles, however, voiced strong accusations against his brother’s current partner, Natasha Osawuru, claiming she is the source of distress. He detailed instances of alleged manipulation, including isolating 2Face from his business and personal life.

Charles urged his brother 2Face to step away from social media and focus on healing and reflection, emphasising the importance of prioritising his legacy and seven children.

He wrote, “To my dear @official2baba my…There are not enough words in English to express how much I love you, so I won’t even try.

“To the gentle, kind, loving, peaceful being, to the guy who would not intentionally hurt a fly, who would take losses in several businesses just to avoid any form of confrontations, who makes sure everyone around is comfortable even though he is not alright, who gets mute, and watches himself being painted as the bad guy just to protect the same person painting him as the bad guy.

“To the guy who I would dare to describe as the modern day Jesus Christ from Nigeria, because of how innocent and pure your heart is, to the most insanely talented musician that has ever graced my ears.

“I beg you today, to ‘WAKE UP! ‎ It can never be a crime to save yourself, to move on from where you were almost losing your life and soul, but you haven’t moved on, you have been captured from inside the frying pan to an industrial furnace.

“‎It’s one thing for a girlfriend to snoop in your phone and read messages out of curiosity or for other relationship reasons (it can even come off as cute), but a girlfriend who breaks into your phone to announce your divorce, because she had doubts about you going through with it, who posts and deletes a picture of herself on your socials and ask Nigerians to help you beg her to marry her while you sleep, who clones your what’sapp, deletes messages she doesn’t like and replies messages pretending to be you to steam roll her agendas, a control freak inside your emails and your accounts, who convinces you to abandon your management and businesses in Lagos and move to Abuja, just to become her arm candy and dragged all over Benin and to places the real you will definitely not go, who would make you defend lies and tolerate chaos , who would sabotage your business trips, who would do a whole lot of rubbish (I will not mention here out of shame) and hide under your name, who would adopt your surname, tell strangers, and whoever cares to listen, that she is your wife while you are still legally.”

The post has sparked discussion online, with fans reacting to Charles’ claims.

Here are some of the reactions below:

@ehijay_ said, “This is really sad, to think that this lady has reduced our legend to nothing is even more heartbreaking! I pray he comes out if this bondage”.

@yettyclesia commented, “God bless you, he needs all the help he can get”.

@official_lolah wrote, “God please just protect our 2baba from all of this madness restore his peace and happiness cos this is getting out of hand”.

@kiki.derika reacted, “My brother, God is awake and God is watching, darkness can never shine over light”.

@eleyi1 said, “You could not have said this any better, Inno is such a great human being to be in this spot all the time. He needs some serious internal work because how is he choosing his women!!”

Recall that Rose Idibia, mother of Nigerian music icon 2Face Idibia, had earlier this year raised an alarm over her son’s relationship with Edo lawmaker, Natasha Osawuru.

She alleged that Natasha spiritually captured 2Face by placing beads on his head and neck.

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‘Man is not built to sexually be with one woman’ – 2Face Idibia [VIDEO]

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Legendary Nigerian musician, Innocent Idibia, also known as 2Face, has revealed that it is not possible for him to be sexually committed to only one woman.

The singer stated this five months after he announced his separation from wife, Annie Macaulay Idibia.

The shocking development generated controversy on social media, especially among his fellow celebrities.

A few days after the divorce announcement, 2Face flaunted his new lover, Natasha Osawuru on the internet.

However, speaking in his latest interview with the media personality, Nedu, 2Face noted that it’s impossible for him to be with one woman sexually.

Nedu asked: “Is it possible to be loyal and be 2Face? Is it possible to be a loyal man to a woman?

“I have said this a couple of days ago, and I got into trouble for it but I didn’t care about that. Man no fits, I don’t know ooo but let me talk for my own self. I no go talk about other men.

“A man is not built to sexually be with one woman. Man can give his heart and love to one woman, but it’s impossible for a man to sexually be with one woman”.

DAILY POST reports that before their separation, Annie had severally accused the singer of infidelity. She revealed that the singer has five kids with other women outside their marriage.

Watch the singer speak.

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“She’s Amazing, But It Just Wasn’t Working” — 2Baba Opens Up on Split From Annie Idibia

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Nigerian music icon 2Baba (Innocent Idibia) has finally addressed his split from his longtime partner and actress, Annie Idibia, during a recent podcast with Nedu and co-hosts.

When asked about what went wrong in their marriage and if he could point out anything he might have done differently, 2Baba remained respectful and guarded but sincere.

“I think both of us, we gave it our best,” he said.
“Why we’re not together today, it’s not something I’m going to start talking about here in the public. Me and her, we get our understanding. She’s amazing, like I said earlier. It just wasn’t working no more. That’s just it.”

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