X user sparks debate on whether you should inform your brother’s wife before visiting his home

A tweet by a Nigerian lawyer sparked a heated debate online after he wrote that if you plan to visit your married brother, you should first inform his wife or seek her permission, especially if you plan to enter the kitchen or handle food.

He argued that the wife might not want to receive visitors and questioned what type of families don’t follow this courtesy.

The tweet divided opinions. Some agreed it’s simple courtesy. Others argued that the only person you should inform is your brother — it’s his responsibility to tell his wife. “This is why people say women bring division to families,” one user said, noting that siblings now have to “walk on eggshells” because their brother is married.

Others shared personal experiences. One lady said the joy she feels whenever her husband’s siblings visit is unexplainable, adding that if a wife makes her husband’s siblings feel unwelcome, she “will get what’s coming for her.” Another commented that common sense dictates communicating with the half you are closer to — in this case, the brother — and letting him pass on the message.