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How Social Media Destroys Your Relationship

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Social media has made it easier for people to know more about other peoples lives than ever before. Pictures of happy couples, usually tagged #couplegoals, have flooded social media blinding many young couples to the reality that people will only show what they want you to see. You only see the good times. No one shares their arguments, their bad moments or the numerous number of times they irritate each other. Couples only show the side that will bring them more likes and comments to gain social media popularity.

Social media can have a negative impact on relationships if misused. Excessive time spent, jealousy-inducing posts, privacy invasion, or online infidelity can strain trust and communication, potentially leading to relationship breakdowns.

The carefully curated images on social media can take a toll on your love life. Most times people compare their relationship to these social media relationships which look good on the outside and this has led to not only breakups but emotional abuse. You will end up putting pressure on your partner expecting them to be someone they are not, leaving you asking questions like “Why them, why not us? Why aren’t we doing this and that? Why don’t you do this like this person?”

It is important that you understand that no relationship is a bed of roses and comes with its ups and downs. Most importantly you have do what works for your relationship rather than comparing it to what you see on social media.

Here are some useful tips for you to apply in your relationship instead of comparing.

Find comfort within

Seeking validation or using others relationship to define yours is a sign that you do not have confidence in your current status. You might notice that everyone but you is getting worked up or others seem happier in their relationships than you. Don’t allow this to make you start questioning the state and progress of your relationship.

In order for you to feel more confident, fight the urge to let other couples benchmarks be a yardstick for measuring your relationship. Be happy in yours and put in efforts to make it work.

Avoid playing the blame game

Saying things like “Why aren’t we like that other couple?” or “If I was with him or her then things would be different,” only destroys the bond between you and your partner. It also breaks the trust since you blame your relationship challenges on your partner without taking responsibility.

Instead of putting the blame on your partner, focus on what you like about your connection. Remind yourselves of what made you fall in love. Go out of your way to do things for each other.

Get real with your friends

Swap relationship stories with your friends. Hearing them open up about their relationships and the struggles they face will kill any assumption you might have.

You and your friends will also be able to advise each other on how to handle the challenges you face. Sharing like this will give you a sense of relief as you realise that you are not alone. Ensure you do this with trusted friends who have your best interests at heart.

Turn jealousy into action

Your first reaction when you see those romantic getaways shared on social media might be envious however, you can turn this into positive action. Instead of letting that jealousy eat you up, organise a fun activity that you and your partner would enjoy taking part in.

Use these instances as reminders to get out and get active instead of spending countless hours online.

Take a break from social media

If you try everything else and it doesn’t work, take a break from social media for a few days or a couple of weeks. Spend this time reminding yourself of what really matters in life. Focus on being the best version of yourself and making things better in your life. And when you do go back online, unfollow anybody who doesn’t add value to your life.

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Person wey Soso bring make I sign I say I no wan sign because I no see the future. Time go tell – Kcee finally addresses the long-rumoured rift with Flavour (WATCH).

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Nigerian singer Kcee has finally addressed the long standing rumours of a rift between himself and fellow artiste Flavour, shedding new light on the issue during an interview on Yanga FM. In his explanation, Kcee revisited the period when music executive Soso Soberekon allegedly introduced Flavour to him for a possible record deal, a proposal he said he turned down at the time. Recalling the moment in his own words, Kcee said, “…person wey Soso bring make I sign? I don dey drive Hummer, Navigator, dey ball before im from East come. I was a freaking big boy… I say I no wan sign because . I no see the future at that point. Time go tell.” He stressed that the rejection was not driven by personal animosity but by his inability at the time to foresee Flavour’s future in the industry.

The singer also referenced his earlier social media outburst in which he called out individuals he accused of acting like custodians of culture simply because he featured a similar artiste to Flavour in one of his projects. According to Kcee, he does not believe the reported tension between them stemmed from the rejected deal but rather from what he described as a superiority complex. He explained that some of his colleagues, in his view, underrate his talent largely because he does not openly brag about his achievements. “The truth is that when some people had written you off, hoping that you would be stagnant, and you work hard and get to a level they don’t expect you to reach, that was what happened,” he said.

Expanding further, Kcee insisted that his journey in the industry predates Flavour’s rise to fame, noting that he was already enjoying success and an affluent lifestyle before Flavour relocated to Lagos. He also said a lot of his colleagues underrate his talent, mostly because of his humility and because he doesn’t brag.

 

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I’m Married But Not In My Husband’s House; I Didn’t Have The Experience Of Living Happily Ever After – Singer Shola Allyson Reveals (Video)

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Sola Allyson, the popular Nigerian gospel singer, has revealed that she is not currently living with her husband.

The musician made this known in her latest interview on Oyinmomo TV.

While speaking about her love life, the 54-year-old who came into limelight with a love album ‘Eji Owuro’, revealed that she is married but not living with her husband.

Sharing her marital experience, the singer said she has never enjoyed the kind of happiness many people describe.

“I’m married, but I’m not in my husband’s house. We live separately. He in his house and I in mine.”

The interviewer asked: “You sang ‘Eji Owuro’, did you experience genuine love from your husband?

She replied, “We lied before. Those older than us didn’t inform us that it’s tough. They made us believe that so long as you both love each other, you will live happily ever after, but it’s a lie.

“That’s not the experience I have. I didn’t have the experience of living happily ever after. I did all I could to make it work.

“Marriage has been a big challenge. I hear people talk about joy in marriage, but I have never experienced it.”

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Drama Looms As 2Face’s Family Petitions IGP, Accuses Natasha Of Ass@ult, Financial Misappropriation, Bigamy

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The family of Innocent Idibia, the Nigerian singer better known as 2Face Idibia or 2Baba, has filed a petition with the Inspector General of Police (IGP) against his wife, Natasha Osawuru.

The family in the petition that surfaced online on Thursday, accused Natasha of financial misappropriation, assault, bigamy, alleged threat to life, and substance abuse.

The Idibia family in the viral petition dated November 12, urged Nigerian police to investigate incidents they claimed have caused the 2Face financial loss, emotional distress, and reputational damage.

The petition explained that the singer’s family received reports from him and other witnesses alleging physical assault in Abuja and the UK, alongside claims that Natasha transferred money from the 2Face’s bank accounts without his authorization.

She was also accused of withholding the musician’s international passport, and other personal documents, preventing him from honouring business engagements which has exposed him to public embarrassment, and potential financial setbacks.

While raising concerns over his safety and emotional well-being, the family urged the police to investigate alleged violation of marriage laws, and possible fraudulent misrepresentation.

According to the report, the singer was yet to complete divorce proceedings with his estranged wife, Annie Macauley Idibia before Natasha presented herself as his new wife.

“Substance abuse by Miss Natasha irobasa Osawaru alegedly resulting in violent behavior, causing Mr. Innocent Ujah idibia emotional distress and financial loss. More Importantly, his personal safety and mental wellbeing appear to be at risk.

“Information suggesting a possible violation of marriage laws (bigamy) and fraudulent misrepresentation, which we request to be properly investigated to establish the facts”, the viral petition stated.

The petition surfaced on social media days after the singer’s ex-managers, Kaka Igbokwe and Lori Tosan during an Instagram livestream with Daddy Freeze, accused Natasha of seeking “full control” over 2Face’s finances and career.

The situation escalated when the singer suddenly joined the live session to stop his former managers from discussing his private life in public. The live broadcast abruptly ended when Natasha and 2Face engaged in physical altercation.

Reacting to the distressed incident, the singer’s younger brother, Hyacinth Idibia, while addressing him on Instagram story, wrote “allow us to save you”.

Following the controversy, the Edo State House of Assembly summoned Natasha Osawaru, a member of the assembly representing Egor constituency, to appear before its committee over her viral conduct.

 

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