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Igba Nkwu Nwanyi: All You Need to Know About the Igbo Traditional Marriage, Using Uturu as a Case Study

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Unfortunately, Igbo tradition doesn’t recognize the modern kind of proposal where the man gets down on one knee and proposes to his girlfriend.

Marriage is very important in Igbo culture, and the traditional rites attached to the union aren’t taken lightly by the families involved.

Traditional Igbo marriages are deemed very festive, colorful, and are divided into four main parts:

1. Marriage inquiry known as ‘Iku aka’ or ‘Iju ese’

2. Seeking consent from the bride-to-be’s extended family, known traditionally as ‘Umunna’

3. Bride price negotiation

4. Wine-carrying ceremony by the bride, known as ‘Igba Nkwu Nwanyi’

All these must be completed, and the bride’s family must be satisfied before the groom can take his new wife home.

1. Marriage Inquiry Known as ‘Iku Aka’ or ‘Iju Ese’

Tradition doesn’t recognize the modern kind of proposal where the man gets down on one knee and proposes to his girlfriend. The first step of the Igbo traditional wedding rites is the groom visiting the bride’s immediate family, accompanied by his father or the eldest member of his family if his father is deceased. Usually, they are meant to show up empty-handed because ‘Iku aka’ or ‘Iju ese’ simply means ‘coming to knock or inquire,’ but the groom and his family are free to take some hot drinks and kola nuts as a gesture of goodwill.

The groom’s father does the talking; he introduces himself to the bride’s parents or guardian, explains the purpose of his visit, and officially announces his son’s interest in marrying their daughter. The bride-to-be is then called out by her parents and asked if she knows her suitor and would like to marry him. Her response determines if they will proceed to inform the extended family and begin the bride price negotiation.

2. Seeking Consent from the Bride-to-Be’s Extended Family, Known Traditionally as ‘Umunna’

After the first visit, the bride’s family begins an investigation of the groom’s family. They check their background and history (hereditary illnesses, bad behaviors, divorce, fertility, etc.). This investigation determines the progress of the next meeting between both families, as the bride’s family will decide if the groom-to-be is suitable to take care of their daughter and future children. It is also assumed that the groom’s family must have conducted a similar investigation prior to the first visit.

The next meeting will be between the groom’s family (which can include up to 20 people) and the bride’s extended family, known as ‘Umunna’. This meeting is important because the groom’s family must restate their interest in marrying from their family. The groom first needs to get the consent of the bride’s extended family and then the final consent from the bride. Dates for the traditional wedding will be set, and a bride price list will be sent out. In Igboland, tradition dictates that the groom bring a few gifts (such as kola nuts, palm wine, beer, soft drinks, tobacco, snuff, and a goat). These will be shared between the groom’s and the bride’s families.

3. Bride Price Negotiation and Payment, Known as ‘Ime Ego’

After the second visit and once consent has been given by the bride’s extended family, the groom’s family can proceed with the bride price negotiation and payment, known traditionally as ‘Ime ego’. The groom’s family asks for the engagement gifts list, which varies slightly from place to place in Igboland.

The money paid for the bride price is significantly small and can be as low as N30; it isn’t an indication of the bride’s worth. The extra gifts make up the larger part of the bride price. The groom’s family then presents all they’ve bought to the bride’s family on an agreed date or on the day of the wine-carrying ceremony.

‘Ime ego’ can be a hectic process between both families, with a lot of begging from the groom’s side and a lot of bragging from the bride’s side. The bride’s family lists their daughter’s accomplishments and what the groom-to-be will gain by marrying her. There will be a lot of back and forth between both families until a set amount is reached.

4. Wine-Carrying Ceremony by the Bride, Known as ‘Igba Nkwu Nwanyi’, and ‘Idu Ụlọ’

This is the final rite done by the groom’s family. After the date for the official wine carrying has been set, the ceremony is held at the bride’s home. Her family prepares a large feast (depending on their means) for the groom’s family and invited guests. They may also hire a live band and traditional dancers to make the ceremony interesting. Usually, the bride-to-be is dressed in traditional Igbo wedding attire, which includes a blouse, a double wrapper, a red coral bead necklace, and a large head tie known as ‘Ichafu’ or a bead around her head.

The groom is expected to be accompanied by a larger party this time (including friends) and bring along the bride price list. He must present the list along with the required gifts to the Umunna before the ceremony begins.

The highlight of ‘Igba Nkwu Nwanyi’ is when the bride publicly identifies the man she wants to marry. The bride’s father or eldest uncle (if her father is deceased) traditionally prays for the bride, blessing her future marriage. He then gives her a cup of palm wine (usually placed in a gourd) to find the man she intends to marry. The bride, along with her maidens, searches for her groom in the crowd, as other men and the groom’s friends beckon her to give them her wine. Once she finds her groom, she offers him the drink, kneeling down. If he takes a sip, it signifies to the crowd that he is her husband; acceptance means they are officially married. The groom and bride then dance to meet her parents, who pronounce blessings on them. The merriment begins, and the couple receives gifts from friends and family.

‘Idu Ụlọ’ comes immediately after ‘Igba Nkwu’. At this stage, the bride visits the groom’s home for the first time, accompanied by a maiden or her unmarried sister to keep her company. Before she begins her journey, the bride’s family gifts her items she’ll need to start her new home, including cooking utensils, bed sheets, suitcases, boxes, a sewing machine, a bed, pillowcases, plates, clothes, and other essential items. The bride’s sister or family returns home after a few days to give feedback to her family.

 

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BREAKING: Bomb explosion kills 5, injures 15 in Kano

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Kano state police command has confirmed the death of five people from a military grade explosive in the state.

The unfortunate incident occurred on Saturday at a scrap collection company located at Eastern bypass in the state.

The police confirmed that the vehicle was coming from Yobe state when the explosion happened.

Speaking to newsmen, Police State Commissioner, Ibrahim Adamu Bakori said he was called of an emergency explosion in the area.

He added that on arrival, he witnessed the explosion scene.

“It was a military EOD personnel. It was a military model bomb that exploded. 15 people were injured, and taken to Aminu Kano Teaching Hospital.”

He added that on arrival at the hospital, five people were confirmed dead, while 10 others were receiving treatment.

The Police Commissioner said from preliminary investigation, the vehicle came from Yobe, adding that though the matter is under investigation, he was informed that the vehicle carrying the bomb  was a truck from Yobe state.

CP Bakori assured of details as soon as more investigation into the matter is done.

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Seven Chinese nationals jailed over cyberterrorism, internet fraud

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A Federal High Court in Lagos State has convicted and sentenced seven Chinese nationals to one year imprisonment each for their roles in cyberterrorism and internet fraud connected to a major Ponzi scheme uncovered in December 2024.

The convicts; Peng Li Huan, Zhang Jin Rong, He Kun, Rachelle Cabalona, Caselyn Pionela, Guo Long Long, and Zhang Hua Zhai, were arrested by operatives of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, during a raid on a property located on Oyin Jolayemi Street, Lagos.

The operation led to the apprehension of over 700 suspects in what authorities described as one of the largest cybercrime crackdowns in recent years.

They were separately arraigned before Justices Ayokunle Faji, Chukwujekwu Aneke, and Yellim Bogoro on amended one-count charges relating to cyberterrorism and internet fraud.

According to the EFCC’s Lagos Zonal Directorate 1, the prosecution team, led by Bilkisu Buhari-Bala, Chineye Okezie, and Banjo Temitop, told the court that the defendants had opted for plea bargain agreements. These agreements were formally submitted on June 20, 2025.

All seven defendants pleaded guilty and confirmed that they entered into the plea bargains voluntarily.

Upon acceptance of their pleas, the court sentenced all seven Chinese to one year in prison and imposed a monetary fine of N1 million on each of them.

The court also directed the Comptroller-General of the Nigerian Immigration Service to facilitate the deportation of the convicts to their respective countries within seven days of completing their sentences.

The amended charge alleged that the defendants, in December 2024, knowingly accessed computer systems with the intent to undermine Nigeria’s economic and social stability by recruiting local youths to engage in identity theft and impersonation of foreign nationals for illicit financial gain.

Their actions contravene Section 18 of the Cybercrimes (Prohibition, Prevention, etc.) Act, 2015 (as amended in 2024), and Section 2(3)(d) of the Terrorism (Prevention and Prohibition) Act, 2022.

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Benue crisis: IDPs facing neglect, untold suffering – Youth leader, Alidu provides fresh insight

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A Benue youth leader, Magagi Mike Alidu, Alidu, in this interview with Ekwutosblog , decries the massacre of Benue people and the state of the displaced people in the state. Alidu, who is the President of Ochetoha K’Idoma Youth Wing Worldwide, also spoke on the causes of the recent gruesome murder of over 200 people in the state by suspected herdsmen. Excerpts:

There have been security concerns in Benue state in recent times. What is your general thinking on the causes of the killings in different parts of the state?

Well, the general assessment of the killings in different parts of Benue state is actually an occupational agenda. We consider it to be ethnic cleansing or land grabbing. They want to put a level of fear into us as they are killing our people and we are facing all sorts of atrocities so that we can run away like others have been doing already. So that they can take over lands because the Fulani herders said that Benue land is very fertile and their cows could feed here and live better because everything they need for their business is in abundance in Benue state.

It was on the news that Nigeria’s Chief of Army Staff relocated to Benue in an effort to hunt down the criminal elements. What impact has that made to address the situation?

The impact was not positive because the Chief of Army Staff came and left the following day. So, there is no positive impact on his visit to the state. In fact, the negative impact of his visit was the rearrangement of the Fulani herders to come and kill over 200 people in Yelewata in Guma Local Government Area and other parts of the state. His coming increased the attack. It made them come in numbers to attack us in a more aggressive manner. In fact, this is the worst attack in the history of Benue; that women, children and the aged were gruesomely murdered in cold blood. The impact of his visit was negative and it did not yield any result.

President Bola Tinubu recently visited Benue to commiserate with the people of the state and chat a way forward to curbing the situation. Has his visit yielded any result?

Well, I can say yes. However, we are presuming that the coming of President Bola Tinubu to the state will help us, and it is yielding results already. Because the president came here by himself and questioned why there was no arrest being made. Now arrests have been made in Nasarawa state. The governor has confirmed and the commissioner of police also confirmed that people arrested are related to the Benue massacre.

Benue State Governor, Hyacinth Alia, has occasionally said that the attackers of Benue communities are foreign mercenaries and not the cattle-rearing Fulanis. What’s your take on that?

The fact is that the killing in Benue state is being carried out by Fulani herders terrorists. They are armed terrorists. And because they want to occupy our territory, they invite Fulanis from other parts of the world to join hands together with them to cause this mayhem. So, it is not a question of foreigners. Calling them foreigners is unnecessarily ambiguous. The fact is that it is Fulani cattle herders that are carrying out these calculated and genocidal activities because they are raping, they are kidnapping, they are killing, they are burning people and all of that. They are Fulani herders terrorists.

In recent times, the two paramount traditional rulers of the state; the Tor-Tiv and the Och’Idoma gave an ultimatum to the Fulani herders to leave the state. Do you think this last massacre is as a result of the ultimatum?

The recent massacre of over 200 people was not a result of the ultimatum because, before, during and after the ultimatum, they attacked our people and they are still carrying out this attack. The reason they are attacking us in this manner is that the anti-open grazing law is being relaxed in the state. If the law had been implemented, this thing would not have been happening. They are resisting because Benue have come together with one voice from the youth, from the traditional council that have asked them to evacuate because this is farming season and Benue people needed to go back to their farms.

These attacks have forced a lot of Benue people to evacuate their ancestral homes. What is the level of support from the federal and state government to the people affected?

I can tell you for free that there is no adequate support. Not from the federal government or the state government. And the state government has not been supporting people from the Benue south senatorial district, that is, the Idoma speaking area. I am from Agatu. There is no IDPs camp in Agatu. We have been attacked on several occasions and nothing has been done. Houses have not been rebuilt. People are not even rehabilitated because of their traumatic nature. People are not psychologically brought back from their trauma. They are at their own mercies. No one, not even the government, has supported them. And things are very expensive in those areas.

As I speak to you, even when SEMA took food to IDP camps in Guma, Makurdi and other Local Government Areas of the state, they did not take anything to Agatu, they did not take to Apa, they did not take to Otukpo. I am telling you this because I’m at the forefront of this. So there is no support from the state government and no adequate support from the federal government. And I also want to tell you that the supports are being politicised.

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